I took 30 days off of social media. Feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, I decided to take what felt like a bold step and disconnect. In the spirit of full transparency here, I must admit to allowing myself 20 minutes daily to catch up with close friends and family. It is the end of the school year, and we have many close friends with kids graduating and doing really cool things as they get ready for college. I was incredibly intentional about where I spent that time and completely logged off of my work social media. No research. No scrolling. Zero “connecting”. For 30 days. Little did I know that this break would transform my perspective and make me question whether I wanted to return at all.
I had a panic attack the first couple of days. I was sure that work would completely stop. That the tech world would fly past me and that I would never catch back up upon re-entry. On the friends and family side, I worried I might miss out on special events, birthdays, and life-changing moments. But then, I began to feel a profound sense of liberation. I have taught my students and clients for years to remove yourself to quiet the noise, and you will feel free. Better. Clear. The noise settled.
I found myself reaching out to people directly to engage in meaningful conversations and catch up. Each friend or family member I connected with was so happy to have an actual conversation. Many were going through private life events that felt heavy, and they welcomed the chance to talk. Even more critical, I re-discovered the joy of simple pleasures. Free from the constant noise of social media, I found solace in moments of solitude. At the lake. In my flower garden. A solo trip where I spent time by myself for three days felt like heaven.
Taking this time allowed me to get still long enough to reflect on who I truly am. Why I felt the need to step back from the work that I love so much…and the social media world that drives it. I realized almost two weeks in that I was experiencing, among other things, signs of burnout. And that social media had played a huge role in why I felt this way. In my stillness, I recognized that I was burnt out on hearing (seeing) stressful online content. Be it from family, friends, or work, I was burnt out from the constant noise in my life that reached out to me from behind a screen.
After 30 days off-screen, re-entry felt like a complete attack on my senses in the most rude way possible. The time off allowed me to reconnect with what feels right and good and important in life. As much as I lectured on this, I discovered I had slowly fallen into the screen connection trap, which led to my feelings of imbalance and frustration.
Re-entry has been hard. My new sense of freedom feels challenged. So I want to share with you things I am putting in place to sustain better balance, hoping they may also help you.
- Intentionality. I pay close attention to who and what I allow to occupy head space.
- Time. I do not allow fun scrolling for anything longer than 20 minutes per day. I stopped “doom scrolling” years ago, but even “fun scrolling” becomes a time stealer and contributes to the constant online noise in your life.
- Genuine connections. Face to face. Phone calls. Some texting. I am creating sacred spaces in my life to spend time with those I love. I find this has extended to work, and I am creating more opportunities for real connections there as well. And it just feels better. Right. Comforting. Useful. Effective.
Do I recommend your own personal social media hiatus? Yes. Try it for 30 days. Allow yourself time to move through the uncomfortable beginning. Find ways to show up for the important people in your life. I promise the settled, beautiful, connected ending is worth it.
Kristi Bush serves as a national education consultant and social media safety advocate. She is a licensed social worker with greater than 15 years of clinical practice and health care experience. She attended Troy and Auburn University where she studied social work and counseling. Kristi travels nationally and has spoken with thousands of children, parents, professionals and organizations about the benefits and threats associated with social media. You may reach Kristi through her website at www.knbcommunications.com.
Author: Kristi Bush
Kristi Bush serves as a national education consultant and social media safety advocate. She is a licensed social worker with greater than 15 years of clinical practice and health care experience. She attended Troy and Auburn University where she studied social work and counseling. Kristi travels nationally and has spoken with thousands of children, parents, professionals and organizations about the benefits and threats associated with social media. You may reach Kristi through her website at www.knbcommunications.com.
